What I Hate The Most

I try and keep things up beat on here, but there is something I need to get off my chest. The thing I hate the most in this world are liars. I know, "hate" is a pretty strong word. But I am well aware of its meaning and implications. I honestly and vehemently hate liars. I know what you are going to say. "What about little white lies?" Yes, I hate them too. A lie is a completely selfish thing. The only one that benefits from it is the teller. It sends the message to the receiver that they are not worth the effort of telling the truth. And how are you supposed to trust a liar? The foundation of any relationship, be it friendship, love or professional, is trust. If that foundation slips due to crack in the trust brought forth by lies, how is the relationship supposed to stand?  And heaven forbid someone is caught in a lie. Then suddenly it is the receiver causing drama. Drama that could have been avoided if the truth was told from the beginning.
Now I hear time and time again that little white lies are okay because you are sparing the other persons feelings. Are you really? The truth will come out eventually and shouldn't that come from someone trusted rather than a stranger? "Do I look good wearing this?" Option 1 "No, you look hideous." Truthful, but a bit harsh. Option 2 "You look great!" A lie and it makes the other feel good, that is, until the stranger on the street says, "OMG did you see all the fat rolls sticking out of that thing?" loud enough for everyone to hear and the wearer wondering why no one said how bad it looked to them. Or Option 3 "That might not be the best look on you, lets keep looking." Honest, not hurtful and sensitive. See there are ways of avoiding the white lie. And who decides when a lie is white or not? The term "white lie" was invented by liars so they could feel less guilt about them. Big or small, a lie still hurts
Once a lie is uncovered, and lets face it, they all get uncovered eventually, that trust built between two people is now gone and can never be like it was. Yes, given time some trust may be regained, but it will never be the same. Once your faith in someone is shaken, it is very difficult to get it back. It is far better to hear something you don't want  to hear then it is to later hear it AND lose trust in someone too. Even if the truth is that its time to end the relationship, it is better to be honest then to destroy another person in the process. Even in the end, if you lie about the cause, those lies will continue to haunt the other person and shape how they view themselves as they are forced to do that alone. Sometimes the cause of the end is simply the discovery of previous lies.
It never seems to fail that when I hear someone say, "Oh they were just too much drama." and I delve deeper into looking at the causes, it turns out the real reason was that the truth about something had come out. Its always the liar who creates the drama and places the blame for it on the other person. Liars like to build these perfect little worlds made of glass all around them, and when it comes crashing down around them, they blame everyone but the real culprit. Themselves. All the drama, all the mistrust all the hurt can be avoided simply by taking the time to tell the truth without being hurtful. So yeah, sorry for the long post tonight. Love to all.

Burly Bear Chris