Be True To Yourself

If there is one thing I would love for people to take away from this blog, it is to always be true to yourself. I have not only seen and heard of lives ruined and turned upside down, but have experienced first hand the trauma of finding out the person closest to me is not really who they say they are. I have heard every excuse in the world as to why someone would choose to hide who they really are, and aside from eminent harm, none are worth the lives that are effected by being dishonest. Here are a few things to keep in mind:

• You cannot complain that no one knows the real you when you do not put the real you out there. When you hide who you are, the relationships you build with others are all built on the facade you put before you. If others don't know the real you, are you being honest with yourself?
• Hiding who you are does not hurt only you. When, not if, others learn that you have been keeping secrets from them and living lies, you cannot expect them to embrace it with open arms. Others will get hurt.
• Keeping yourself hidden will only suppress happiness. Keeping secrets can be emotionally draining. The longer you go, the more these negative emotions take control. 

I am not saying that by simply being honest everything becomes rainbows and roses. It is hard work and difficult in the beginning. But it is no harder then keeping secrets and eventually, once the truth is out there, things do in fact get better. Love to all.

Burly Bear Chris