The Rules Of Love And The Modern Relationship

The only constant in life is change. As the things around us change, so do the so-called rules to the use of these things. Everything from how we drive a car, or use a phone, to even how we eat. All these things change. So why do we insist that we hold the rules to how we love so steadfastly in the past? Some use religious beliefs as the reason for this, yet even in religion, the rules evolve and change. No one is going to stone you to death for wearing a cotton poly blend or eating bacon on your burger. Yet the resistance to adapt love to the modern world is strong enough to enrage some to the point of murder to protect their ideals of it. I find it ironic that Merriam-Webster defines love as "...unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another" yet nothing brings on hate, loathing and contempt faster then when two people who love each other happen to be of the same sex. Its more then past due for societies views on love and relationships to step out of the dark ages. Its a shame that there has not been as much effort in teaching the values of love versus the teachings of who to love. It is becoming more and more acceptable to see sex and promiscuity between a man and a woman. To idolize sluts and whores. Its easier to rewrite the rules of sexual behavior, then to simply allow a same sex couple to vow publicly that they will love honor and cherish each other and forsake all others. How pathetic is that, really? There was a time when an adulterer would be arrested, tried and disciplined in public. Now, they get their own TV series and become role models. When I first came out I would often hear the argument for not allowing gays to marry as being that they were by nature promiscuous and could never be faithful. Now the argument is that it will undermine the institution of marriage. These people need to look into their own houses and what their own actions are doing to the very thing they are trying to protect. I would love to hear your input on the matter. Far too many people have strong feelings on the subject, but have their voices muted. Let me know how you feel and I will add voice to it for you. You can leave a comment here as anonymous or send me an email. Love to all.

Burly Bear Chris